Hey guys! I hope you are all doing well! I am back with an interesting post! I hope you enjoy reading 🙂
Today, I would like to touch on a trending topic on Twitter Ghana for the past 24 hours at least! Summarily, the first episode of The Rants, Bants and Confessions dropped and one of the hosts, Gisela Amponsah, dropped a bombshell (well according to the reception) that she hates her dad, considers him a demon and doesn’t want to have anything to do with him. Now as expected in the Ghanaian society, opinions started flying left, right and centre on how you are not allowed to talk about your parents in such a manner – it is disrespectful. Some people even found a way to bring marriage into the conversation – which man will marry you, you won’t respect him…(SIGH!)
Now, one thing I have learned in my almost 31 years living is not to judge a path I have never walked or a situation I have never been in. I have seen many takes on this issue which have been crass, unfortunate and VERY STUPID (to say the least!). Everyone on Twitter has a good relationship with their parents or have perfect families – we try to be delusional to avoid being logical. We all KNOW that not all parents are responsible and in fact, a hill I am willing to die on is not everyone should have been a parent or should be a parent. And this is why I hate the stupid pressure society gives every Tom, Dick and Harry to get married and have children. Horrible and unhealed people are getting married and having children – continuing the cycle of bringing damaged people into the world – like we don’t have enough damage already in the world.
Now back to the topic, this girl expressed how she feels due to the neglect and irresponsible nature of her dad. She is clearly experiencing trauma. Regardless of what you think or feel, remember that her feelings are valid. Some of you may not have experienced neglect before so you think everyone is like you so you try to belittle their experiences. However you think she should have said it does not matter as well and yes she brought it to a public platform, it doesn’t mean you should be stupid and not extend grace in your submission.
Another thing I despise so much in Ghanaian society is the idea that every elderly person is right or deserves respect – no wonder we are where we are as a country. In fact, Kojo Cue, a Ghanaian rapper could not have said it better…
In Ghana, they say an elderly person is always right and the younger person is always wrong – how do you expect accountability from your leaders when you think this way? The joke is really on you. The truth is our system is messed up! We accept all sorts of nonsense from the elderly and leaders and wonder why we are not progressing. LOL! Instead of you being mad at her for expressing her feelings towards a deadbeat parent, why don’t you look around you and see the number of people within your circle and society that are damaged due to absent parents and how it has affected their view on relationships and love. Because the repercussions of the neglect is the real issue here, not her outburst. I am always surprised when people miss the point and are quick to type just to deliver a ‘banger’ (like they say on Twitter). These are real life issues affecting real people and not a fiction to be subjected to nasty jokes and trolling.
I could go and on because this is a big topic that cannot be dissected in a single blog post. I will conclude by saying as a society we really need to do better when it comes to being understanding and not necessarily having to compare our situations to others and then tell them how they should or should not have reacted. NO! Everyone is different…the projection MUST stop! And parents..especially the deadbeat ones, do not get offended when your children refuse to have any form of relationship with you later on in life. As a parent, you have a greater responsibility to your child than they do to you. If you miss out on important moments in their life especially at a younger age, don’t expect ‘I am sorry’ or a Bible verse to fix things – it is NOT that straightforward. And to parents to be or current parents, I hope you are or become responsible parents – to rid yourself of being called out like this/so your children are proud to have you as parents. And to those who are in the habit of looking for reasons to always defend nonsense and find a way to blame victims, continue! Life will humble you real soon at least so you understand that sometimes, just shut up if you have nothing better to say.
And to Gisela Amponsah, I don’t know the details and I don’t need to know but I hope you heal with time and maybe some time in the future, you forgive your father whether or not he comes around (trust me, sometimes they won’t due to arrogance or the type of counsel they get). I hope you truly heal. You are LOVED!
Thank you so much for taking out time to read today’s post – I hope you enjoyed reading. Stay tuned for the next! Take care and God bless you!
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